The Women.....It's all about the Men!

I had the chance to view the movie, "The Women," today and was quite surprised at how much I actually enjoyed the dialogue between the characters. The movie was based around 4 women whose lives all intertwined with each others in friendship. The main character, Mary Haines, was married to a wealthy businessman who ends up having an affair with the infamous 'perfume bitch.' lol The spritzer was played by Eva Mendez who performed the role of a sexy perfume girl at Saks that lured Mr. Haines with her charm. This brings me to my next point.

How many marriages become unraveled due to affair? Do you think it is because either party is bored and needs that extra umph to get the spark going again or are there both men and women out there with full intention of sleeping with your husband or wife without the slightest care in the world? I've always heard about the 7 year itch some married folks get and this couple was together for 13. He was in Saks purchasing perfume for his wife. Isn't safe to say he was happily married before he met the seductress? So are we really that weak as humans or is there always someone 'bad' enough to temp us into infidelity?

Things that make me go hmmmm......

Minique~

The BEST SEX Sign

Everytime I tell a man that Im a Scorpio two things happen...#1 they instantly smile, and #2 they go, "Ahhhh...so your a freak?" Who said that??...

Now I read astrology books and horoscopes and all about the certain characteristics that each of the astrological signs are supposed to possess, so I know good and well that they "say" that Scorpios are the "most sexually oriented" sign. I was having a conversation with a friend the other day (no names will be used for security purposes!, lol-I told her I would write that;), and she happens to be a scorpio as well. She was telling me how 2 scorpios together make a great sexual combination, to be discreet, if you get my drift, lol. As I think back, Ive had one scorpio lover, and to be honest, it wasnt all that...in fact, it just may have been the worst ever!, lol. So that leaves me to wonder just what is the "best sex sign"?...

...inquiring minds want to know!

~J.Genese

Whats THIS About???....

Im all for self expression...and if she felt it was time and she needed a "little" change, then Im all for it and understand that too....but.....what the hell was Cassie thinking??...
...I dont get it??, lol

Maybe she should just go all in and shave it all off! I think she can pull it off, she has the pretty face for it.


~J. Genese

Harlem's Restaurant Row

So where can you find BBQ, Spanish, Latin infused with Thai, Italian, and Modern American Cuisine, all within steps of each other? In none other than what is being called Harlem's new and emerging restaurant row. The restaurants inhabit the once-empty warehouses on 12th Avenue from 125th Street to 133rd Street, near the new West Harlem Waterfront Park, and right off of the West Side Highway. Each location offers eclectic cuisine as well as a "loungy" atmosphere to grab a drink, vibe with friends, and listen to good music....there's even valet parking!, lol...
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Talay
www.talayrestaurant.com
Just from the sheer look of it, ever since I saw this place featured in an episode of Harlem Heights ive been dying to go here, lol...and this past Easter my wish came true, yaaay!:) The prices are reasonable and the food is an interesting mix of Thai and Latin cultures. With dishes like pork and chive dumplings, saffron rice with sausage and mussels, and lemongrass marinated ribs, your palate will be pleasantly surprised and pleased. I tried the crispy shrimp with plantains and highly recommend it. The second level is a bottle-service lounge and club that im dying to make my way up too, lol...
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Body Restaurant & Lounge
www.bodynewyorkcity.com
I had been hearing about Body for a while now and finally went last Thursday with my 2 girlfriends (hey Tecey Wecey...I know your reading;). Upscale, sophisticated, and located at the end of restaurant row, I'd put this place on my list as a nice lounge to chill at. The decor and ambiance was very trendy, and the music had us up on our feet dancing the night away...well....at least as long as our almost 3 hours out lasted!, lol...
While Body is best known as a nightclub, it also offers a modern American menu, a roof deck, and outdoor seating that i'll hopefully be trying out in future visits:)...
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Covo
www.covony.com
Located between Body and Talay, this cozy venue offers classic Italian dishes and over 15 authentic pizza selections...and as a pasta lover, its surely next on my list to try:)
"With a mix of signature cocktails, delighful music, and an upscale, easygoing atmosphere, Covo Lounge is the perfect place to chill, sit back, and relax...
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Hudson River Cafe
www.hudsonrivercafe.com
A few feet away from the 3 restaurants above is where you'll find The Hudson River Cafe. Already a summer hot spot last year, Im sure this trendy spot will be even hotter this year. The menu offers a good variety to choose from to please your palate, and you can dine on the outside heated patio deck if you like.
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Dinosaur Bar-B-Que
www.dinosaurbarbque.com
Even my parents are among the many that are raving about this place!, lol. Dinosaur Bar-B-Que serves up Texas style cuisine with a roadhouse feel. Im not a big rib or BBQ fan, but I hear that it's so good that ill have a change of heart after trying it....I'll let you know if it does the trick!:)
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~J.Genese

Do Friends REALLY Make the Best LOVERS?...

I would like to speak to the person who coined the old saying, "friends make the best lovers" lol. I know that I have male friends, and they are my "friends" for a reason...I just dont see them in that light. And I know this goes vice versa as well. Ive had male friends who I might have looked at as more than a friend, but I still found them keeping me in the friend zone, lol, which is quite alright because I wouldnt want to be with someone who didnt see me in the same light as I saw them. So when do friends stop looking at each other as such and start seeing something more? How does this come about? Im just curious thats all...
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I know couples who proclaim that their other half is their best friend, but Im sure that happened as the relationship developed (even though thats a whole other topic, dont get me started, lol). But if you've known someone for a while...you've hung out with them, they know some of your inner most secrets, and their one of the closest people you have in your life, how do you all of a sudden turn off the friendship switch and turn on the sex switch? Im sure that developing a love relationship with someone who you consider a good friend must be wonderful. But as I sit and think about the true male friends that I have....I dont think that I could ever view them in that light. Now granted, they are all attractive, good men, who have something going for them in way or another, but I dont ever see myself as looking at them as any more than that. And as a female friend of mine just said (Karla Barla:), "wouldnt it have happened already if it were to happen"? How can friends make the best lovers when some people dont even believe that men and woman can be JUST friends in the first place??...

...any thoughts out there?

~J. Genese

"Exceptional Grooming for Exceptional Men..."

...is the slogan for BBraxton, a long time needed upscale men's spa, located in Harlem, NYC. Catering to the African American and Latino man, BBraxton "elevates the standard in men's grooming with a selection of services designed for a gentlemen's lifestyle". From spa treatments to manicures, pedicures, and hot towel shaves, this upscale gentlemen's club provides an atmosphere where men can indulge in services that are key for the well groomed man. There's even a bar located in BBraxton to help unwind during a nice evening facial.

With many services and special packages to pick and choose from, BBraxton is an ideal place for the ultimate well groomed man.

...I want to go!:)

www.bbraxton.com

~J.Genese

Seduction Extreme

Who knew that the accessories of seduction were so freakin expensive? Well I guess after a tantalizing dance and mesmerizing strut in your clear heels it will all be worth it! I need some clear heels in my life! lol

Minique!

Hopeless Romantic.....

"Baby this is a new age, you're like my new crave!"

I'm a hopeless romantic at heart! I was thinking just recently about romance and effects that technology has had on it. What happened to the days of hand written love letters sent in the mail? Wouldn't it be nice to receive a unexpected little note from your admirer? These are the days where you can flirt, tease and practically date someone all over waves of technology. Texting, IM, Chat, Email, Ecard, and the latest social networking sites are all ways people are choosing to link up so to speak. Will our young men know the importance of courting a female if he can opt to say 'hit me up on my facebook?' lol Perhaps not..... Do men even offer to open the door or pull out your chair anymore or how about the many times I'm in the gas station and I see a female pumping her own gas with a male sitting on the passenger side. WTF! Absolutely NOT! I vote for us bringing romance back. Try picking up your date, bring her a small token of 'love' or appreciation atleast for her time and open the car door for her, pull out the seat if you're going to dinner. It's the little things that go the distance.

This brings me to another thought. Internet dating....What do you think about finding your soulmate on match.com? I'm a bit hesitant myself but what are your thoughts? What other options do you have really if you feel as though you are too old for the club like I do? I just went out recently to Ten Pin with a friend and I told myself after having a hangover the next day, this is THE last time lol. I felt like I was amongst a bunch of children bumping into me and splashing my drink all over my clothes. Damn watch where the f*ck you are going lol but I have to remember that I'm a lady and not to speak in such ways lol Anyways let a sistah know what's on your mind.

Signing off singing "Ayo I'm tired of using technology, why don't you get on top of me, I need you right in front of me" lol 50 and Justin Timberlake

Minique~

Show Girlz Exclusive

So I was put on to the Show Girlz magazine today and went online to see what all the hype is about. I've done some amateur modeling in my day just for fun and have gotten paid for it too but something in the back of my mind makes me consider if I could be in a real lingerie magazine. I mean the pictures I've taken for fun are sexy and scantily clad so why not? I wonder if I have what it takes to be a Show Girl. What do YOU think????
You just may see me in a magazine near you.......

Visit their website at www.showgirlzexclusive.com


Minique~

Edress ME!

Ok so I have been pondering my friend's upcoming June wedding and I haven't a thing to wear. I have not attended a wedding since college and there have been so many new trends since then. I even googled the appropriate monetary gift or traditional wedding presents, however I know that now a days most people opt to do a gift registry which takes the guess work right out of the equation. Ok so anyways back to me lol I have been perusing the net for awhile and found the following dresses. There is so much to consider though, the bride is wearing white of course so that's out and nothing remotely similar to a wedding gown will do either. Then you don't want to have too much pizazz because you don't want to out do the bride lol Let me know what you think of these ladies.....

Minique~

I'm a Shoe WHORE 4 sure!

I was just laughing at how many shoes I brought over my man's house just in case.....

Minique~

The ART of Conversation

How many times have you heard, "Communication is key!" This is so true and relates to all aspects of life including both business and personal. You can not have a successful 'relationship' with anyone with out effective communication skills. As a 20 something lol year old woman, I am learning alot these days about my personal communication style and how that either aides or hinders me in my personal life as well as business relationships. I know personally that I communicate more effectively via writing than orally but I'm working on merging the two skills so that they coincide.
There is definitely an ART to conversation. How often do you find yourself in an elevator with 5 to 6 individuals all looking up at the ceiling, straight forward or down at their feet? This has always puzzled me. Is it because people feel uncomfortable speaking to strangers, feel awkward in such an enclosed space or are people just generally rude? IDK
When it comes to personal acquaintances, conversation is very essential. When speaking with a friend over the phone, she mentioned that someone she knows decided to end a relationship because their partner tended to watch television often and could not hold a decent conversation because she was always disengaged from 'reality.' The ability to hold a 'decent conversation' is vital in your personal relationships, especially if this is someone you wish to spend the rest of your life with. What happens when you are old and grey and can no longer engage in that physical activity you currently use to express yourself? You will need to have the ability to converse that's what. Older couples spend their precious time talking and reminiscing about the good times, so if you can't hold a decent conversation then what's life going to be like for you in your elder years as a couple?
The art of conversation includes both the ability to speak effectively as well as listen attentively. Don't you hate it when you are speaking to someone and they cut you off in the middle of your thought in order to interject theirs? This is not only rude but an ineffective communication style. You can not possibly be listening to what the other party has said if you jump right in before they are able to complete their sentence. Also it is often said that "Reality is Perception." You may intend on meaning one thing with what you say, however the reality is how the receiving party perceives it. I have often been at fault with this one myself. You have to remember to watch your tone and delivery so that your thoughts are communicated just as you intend them to be received.
The art of conversation is a learned skill that you develop from early childhood and it continues to evolve as you interact with new people. If no one has ever complained about your conversation or communication methods then congratulations, you are a master at it; however if it has been brought to your attention I would only suggest that you take heed. If so, you will likely find that you attract the attention you wish and command the respect that you deserve and you will notice a dramatic difference in the way that other's perceive you and your new image.

Minique~

Interracial Dating

I have been pondering this topic since viewing the movie, Australia, the other day. Featured in the movie was a mixed boy named Nahla whose mixed ethnicity of White and Aborigine deemed him being labeled as a "creamy." His complexion was caramel with almond shaped eyes and sunkissed curly locks. A very handsome little fellow I might add, was in danger of being taken away from his mother and native land to be cast into a 'boarding school' simply because of his race and being labeled as 'wild.' HIs own white father tried to kill him in the movie as to avoid being found out. This entire scenario made me thing about interracial dating and the differences as well as challenges some still face today, in 2009, in what is supposedly a nation of many liberties.
The controversy around interracial dating and marriage has existed for many centuries. Most opposition has stemmed from insecurities and fear of 'racial impurity.' As you may know, many moons ago, interracial marriage and or dating was banned in many countries including the great United States. Although, now in 2009, these banning laws are nonexistent, there still exists an underlying discontent for interracial marriage, especially when it comes to mixing the black and white race. I personally think that those White racists would rather see an Asian and White or Hispanic and White couple as opposed to a White woman with a Black Man. This sentiment leads me to my next question. For those who choose to date outside their race, what is it that drives you to 'something new?' What are the differences if any found when dating outside of your race? I have always heard comedians talk about the ABW and this being the reason why brothas flock in droves to date a White woman, as we supposedly have too much attitude and sass to deal with. Contrarily I've also heard Black women complain about there not being an ample population of educated, progressive thinking and employed brothas to choose from so they flock towards dating white men. For me, I know that I want to marry an educated, employed and progressive man myself. I don't think that I am opposed to dating outside my race. I've dated a Dominican, Puerto Rican and Ghanian man in the past but ultimately in the back of my mind I still believe that there is nothing better than a 'Black' man for me lol It is just something about their swagga, physique, complexion and driven attitude. I'm not saying that I can not find this in a man of another race but I would prefer to wed and raise my children with a man of my own race. I guess the old saying of "Don't knock it til you try it" rings loudly here. What could be the harm? What are your thoughts???????


Minique~

Dominican Hair Salons

If you are a New York woman you know as well as I do that there is nothing like a Dominican "Doobie" as we like to call it. I love going to the Dominican Salons for several reasons. They are well known for giving you healthy hair from using their Dominican conditioners (Diez de Uno), roller sets that give you that va va voom,  they are very inexpensive and quite fast at rolling and blowing your hair once dried. I personally go to Milly's Dominican Salon on Austell Road in Austell, GA. My stylist is Ruth and she is awesome plus I get to practice my Espanol too :0) Milly's even does $19 wash n sets and $45 relaxers' on Tuesdays. On a regular day the wash n set is $25. Now I know as a native New Yorker that these prices can be seen as astronomical compared to a measly $10 you can pay back home but for GA they are on point and much less expensive than going to a black salon where I have to wait all damn day and pay out the you know what!

If you are ever in the neighborhood visit Milly's. You won't be disappointed.

They can be reached at 678-324-8969.