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When should the female pick up the tab?

2009-07-24T05:59:00.000-07:00

Dear Readers,

In this modern day and age alot of women have taken on the role of the independent woman and wear their Shera cape proudly as she flys from place to place handling things such as motherhood, being the ultimate wife, and even the boss in the office, however there are still so many single women out there who can't seem to find a good man and it isn't that there aren't any good men out there, perhaps they are putting out the wrong vibes and simply attracting the wrong men?.... Anyway with the topic of the independent woman in mind and dating I am wondering what the masses think on the female picking up the tab during the courting stages of relationships and dating.

My ideals on the subject are that there are some who suggest that it becomes a woman’s duty to pay at or around the third date or atleast offer to pick up the tip. I couldn’t disagree more. I'd like to think that most men would take the chivalrous approach when it comes to dating, and as a result, pay for a large majority of all dating activities BUT there does come a time when the financial load should be shared. I tend to think that whomever extends the date invitation should offer to pay at the very least. It just makes sense to me. When you are dating, for starters, you want to give off a great impression so you can’t ask him to join you for lunch and then be upset if he doesn’t cover the entire tab because it was your idea right? Now if he does offer, then great, but you can’t walk into the date having that expectation. Also, remember you are the independent woman right so especially if you swooped down on him in your Shera cape wearing that fly business suit and driving your luxury car to extned him your business card and ask him on a date as if it were a business transaction then you shouldn't be up in arms if he expects you to take out the AMEX and pay for the meal.

In my opinion, the ideal dating scenario consists of both sides working together to make things work for you, so if you are a woman that wants to be wined and dined then don't go offering to pick up the tab all the time and complain that he is lazy and cheap. Also, if you’re dating someone, and you really want it to thrive, then you shouldn’t have a problem occasionally putting your money where your mouth is.

On the flip side, ALOT of men need to just relax and get over the macho sense of self thinking they need to pay for everything in order to be in control because although money makes the world go round it may not be that way when governing the rules in your household or relationships.

Just my thoughts

The BAD chick!?????/

2009-06-22T06:15:00.000-07:00

Here are some women I would call 'classic' beauties, but it still baffles me as to what clearly defines a woman as 'BAD' in a man's eyes? What separates the 'BAD' chicks from the everyday pretty girls of the world? Fella's do tell?

Inquiring minds wanna know.....

My 3 Fashion PICKS of the Week!

2009-05-07T10:27:00.000-07:00

#1. Blake Lively in Versace-You go Gossip Girl! I love this look from head to toe, and man is she working it! I love her body, the attitude she is giving in that pose, the simplicity of her hair, makeup, and jewels, and the dress is absolutely beautiful! Now thats something to gossip about!

#2. Victoria Beckham in Louis Vuitton-oh so Posh! I love the simple elegance of the hair and makeup which is only appropriate for such a "wow" dress.

#3. Ivanka Trump in Brian Reyes-Its different...I probably couldnt get away with wearing it, lol...but on Ivanka it works....very chic and classy.

~J.Genese

This is FASHIONABLE??

2009-05-07T10:17:00.000-07:00

I dont know which Olsen this is, and although I do love the color I must say Im not a fan of the dress...
Louis Vuitton or not....what was Madonna thinking?

Im all for being different and creative....but....

The Editor and Chief of Vogue Magazine Anna Wintour....???....lol

And I NEVER thought a day would come when I'd ever have to say a bad word about my fashion icon Rihanna....so I wont say anything....just let you see for yourself...im sad:(

~J.Genese

Which LOOK Do You Prefer??...

2009-05-07T10:12:00.000-07:00

Glamour and Glitz ala Tyra?, or Sleek and Sophisticated ala Ciara?

~J.Genese

Ive Got the BLUES...

2009-05-07T09:47:00.000-07:00

Ive noticed lately that when Ive been shopping or looking around for nice going out dresses Ive been gravitating towards the color blue. I thought it was kind of weird since I didnt really think I was a fan of the color to begin with. I guess it all started when I "discovered" blue nail polish last fall, lol. Everyone was wearing these dark and rich brown and black colors and for some reason I just couldnt get with it, so I opted to try blue...lo and behold I fell in love:). I loved the way the color seemed to just make my fingers and toes pop, even though it was a dark color. And then as the season changed I found a new aqua blue which was lighter for spring time but seemed to have the same pizzazz. Ive since added three new blue dresses to my wardrobe and even have a blue flower accessory to adorn my hair with. I dont know ladies, but there is just something about this blue color this season...and its not just the regular blue, but the blueish greens, and the aquamarines as well....Im drawn to it everytime I go shopping, lol...

As I perused the internet this morning, I came across pictures from the 2009 Costume Institute Gala Red Carpet and was pleased to see that Im not the only one with the blues lately...

~J.Genese

YOU need a change in FOCUS

2009-05-03T15:28:00.000-07:00

I've seen the phrase, "I'm so glad I got laid off!" across the net lately and it is actually quite comical in a sense but also a statement of revelation. Ever since the recession has made staggering change in American's lives many people have been forced unwilling to make significant adjustments in their daily lives including me. The news bombards you daily with stories of the swine flu making everyone wear those sanitary masks over their faces, recession, unemployment and other issues of global warfare. It is all very disheartening BUT the good news is that God remains certain in HIS promises to us even in our times of uncertainty. I personally am very uncommonly calm about my personal pursuits. Although I have never been one to panick I just trust that God has a better plan for me. I am taking this time to pursue my dream of working for myself. I know that I can do it and with all that I have learned over the years from working in corporate america it just seems so attainable to me now moreso than ever before. I believe that I will succeed in my endeavors and I even started to look up pursuing government bids for design jobs. I'm at the hurry up and wait point right now but the rainbow is yet so near....... I don't want to feel like I'm trapped by a glass ceiling and running in the rat race ever again. How about you? Do you need a change in focus?

Minique~

No MUFFIN TOP for Momma

2009-05-03T15:22:00.001-07:00

Halle was dubbed as the Show stopper of the week on concreteloop and I would have to agree. She has always looked great but hands down after child birth she looks amazing to me! No muffin top for momma! I want to look like her when I grow up. Today I ran around my subdivision, up and down the hills, so much so that I felt nauseated when I returned home but I am more than determined to lose this gut and strut my stuff this summer. No more muffin top for me!

Minique~

The Women.....It's all about the Men!

2009-04-30T17:32:00.000-07:00

I had the chance to view the movie, "The Women," today and was quite surprised at how much I actually enjoyed the dialogue between the characters. The movie was based around 4 women whose lives all intertwined with each others in friendship. The main character, Mary Haines, was married to a wealthy businessman who ends up having an affair with the infamous 'perfume bitch.' lol The spritzer was played by Eva Mendez who performed the role of a sexy perfume girl at Saks that lured Mr. Haines with her charm. This brings me to my next point.

How many marriages become unraveled due to affair? Do you think it is because either party is bored and needs that extra umph to get the spark going again or are there both men and women out there with full intention of sleeping with your husband or wife without the slightest care in the world? I've always heard about the 7 year itch some married folks get and this couple was together for 13. He was in Saks purchasing perfume for his wife. Isn't safe to say he was happily married before he met the seductress? So are we really that weak as humans or is there always someone 'bad' enough to temp us into infidelity?

Things that make me go hmmmm......

Minique~

The BEST SEX Sign

2009-04-16T09:47:00.000-07:00

Everytime I tell a man that Im a Scorpio two things happen...#1 they instantly smile, and #2 they go, "Ahhhh...so your a freak?" Who said that??...

Now I read astrology books and horoscopes and all about the certain characteristics that each of the astrological signs are supposed to possess, so I know good and well that they "say" that Scorpios are the "most sexually oriented" sign. I was having a conversation with a friend the other day (no names will be used for security purposes!, lol-I told her I would write that;), and she happens to be a scorpio as well. She was telling me how 2 scorpios together make a great sexual combination, to be discreet, if you get my drift, lol. As I think back, Ive had one scorpio lover, and to be honest, it wasnt all that...in fact, it just may have been the worst ever!, lol. So that leaves me to wonder just what is the "best sex sign"?...

...inquiring minds want to know!

~J.Genese

Whats THIS About???....

2009-04-16T09:17:00.001-07:00

Im all for self expression...and if she felt it was time and she needed a "little" change, then Im all for it and understand that too....but.....what the hell was Cassie thinking??...
...I dont get it??, lol

Maybe she should just go all in and shave it all off! I think she can pull it off, she has the pretty face for it.

~J. Genese

Harlem's Restaurant Row

2009-04-13T10:30:00.000-07:00

So where can you find BBQ, Spanish, Latin infused with Thai, Italian, and Modern American Cuisine, all within steps of each other? In none other than what is being called Harlem's new and emerging restaurant row. The restaurants inhabit the once-empty warehouses on 12th Avenue from 125th Street to 133rd Street, near the new West Harlem Waterfront Park, and right off of the West Side Highway. Each location offers eclectic cuisine as well as a "loungy" atmosphere to grab a drink, vibe with friends, and listen to good music....there's even valet parking!, lol...
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Talay
www.talayrestaurant.com
Just from the sheer look of it, ever since I saw this place featured in an episode of Harlem Heights ive been dying to go here, lol...and this past Easter my wish came true, yaaay!:) The prices are reasonable and the food is an interesting mix of Thai and Latin cultures. With dishes like pork and chive dumplings, saffron rice with sausage and mussels, and lemongrass marinated ribs, your palate will be pleasantly surprised and pleased. I tried the crispy shrimp with plantains and highly recommend it. The second level is a bottle-service lounge and club that im dying to make my way up too, lol...
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Body Restaurant & Lounge
www.bodynewyorkcity.com
I had been hearing about Body for a while now and finally went last Thursday with my 2 girlfriends (hey Tecey Wecey...I know your reading;). Upscale, sophisticated, and located at the end of restaurant row, I'd put this place on my list as a nice lounge to chill at. The decor and ambiance was very trendy, and the music had us up on our feet dancing the night away...well....at least as long as our almost 3 hours out lasted!, lol...
While Body is best known as a nightclub, it also offers a modern American menu, a roof deck, and outdoor seating that i'll hopefully be trying out in future visits:)...
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Covo
www.covony.com
Located between Body and Talay, this cozy venue offers classic Italian dishes and over 15 authentic pizza selections...and as a pasta lover, its surely next on my list to try:)
"With a mix of signature cocktails, delighful music, and an upscale, easygoing atmosphere, Covo Lounge is the perfect place to chill, sit back, and relax...
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Hudson River Cafe
www.hudsonrivercafe.com
A few feet away from the 3 restaurants above is where you'll find The Hudson River Cafe. Already a summer hot spot last year, Im sure this trendy spot will be even hotter this year. The menu offers a good variety to choose from to please your palate, and you can dine on the outside heated patio deck if you like.
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Dinosaur Bar-B-Que
www.dinosaurbarbque.com
Even my parents are among the many that are raving about this place!, lol. Dinosaur Bar-B-Que serves up Texas style cuisine with a roadhouse feel. Im not a big rib or BBQ fan, but I hear that it's so good that ill have a change of heart after trying it....I'll let you know if it does the trick!:)
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~J.Genese

Do Friends REALLY Make the Best LOVERS?...

2009-04-08T11:00:00.000-07:00

I would like to speak to the person who coined the old saying, "friends make the best lovers" lol. I know that I have male friends, and they are my "friends" for a reason...I just dont see them in that light. And I know this goes vice versa as well. Ive had male friends who I might have looked at as more than a friend, but I still found them keeping me in the friend zone, lol, which is quite alright because I wouldnt want to be with someone who didnt see me in the same light as I saw them. So when do friends stop looking at each other as such and start seeing something more? How does this come about? Im just curious thats all...
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I know couples who proclaim that their other half is their best friend, but Im sure that happened as the relationship developed (even though thats a whole other topic, dont get me started, lol). But if you've known someone for a while...you've hung out with them, they know some of your inner most secrets, and their one of the closest people you have in your life, how do you all of a sudden turn off the friendship switch and turn on the sex switch? Im sure that developing a love relationship with someone who you consider a good friend must be wonderful. But as I sit and think about the true male friends that I have....I dont think that I could ever view them in that light. Now granted, they are all attractive, good men, who have something going for them in way or another, but I dont ever see myself as looking at them as any more than that. And as a female friend of mine just said (Karla Barla:), "wouldnt it have happened already if it were to happen"? How can friends make the best lovers when some people dont even believe that men and woman can be JUST friends in the first place??...

...any thoughts out there?

~J. Genese

"Exceptional Grooming for Exceptional Men..."

2009-04-07T07:48:00.000-07:00

...is the slogan for BBraxton, a long time needed upscale men's spa, located in Harlem, NYC. Catering to the African American and Latino man, BBraxton "elevates the standard in men's grooming with a selection of services designed for a gentlemen's lifestyle". From spa treatments to manicures, pedicures, and hot towel shaves, this upscale gentlemen's club provides an atmosphere where men can indulge in services that are key for the well groomed man. There's even a bar located in BBraxton to help unwind during a nice evening facial.

With many services and special packages to pick and choose from, BBraxton is an ideal place for the ultimate well groomed man.

...I want to go!:)

www.bbraxton.com

~J.Genese

Seduction Extreme

2009-04-06T13:52:00.000-07:00

Who knew that the accessories of seduction were so freakin expensive? Well I guess after a tantalizing dance and mesmerizing strut in your clear heels it will all be worth it! I need some clear heels in my life! lol

Minique!

Hopeless Romantic.....

2009-04-06T10:31:00.000-07:00

"Baby this is a new age, you're like my new crave!"

I'm a hopeless romantic at heart! I was thinking just recently about romance and effects that technology has had on it. What happened to the days of hand written love letters sent in the mail? Wouldn't it be nice to receive a unexpected little note from your admirer? These are the days where you can flirt, tease and practically date someone all over waves of technology. Texting, IM, Chat, Email, Ecard, and the latest social networking sites are all ways people are choosing to link up so to speak. Will our young men know the importance of courting a female if he can opt to say 'hit me up on my facebook?' lol Perhaps not..... Do men even offer to open the door or pull out your chair anymore or how about the many times I'm in the gas station and I see a female pumping her own gas with a male sitting on the passenger side. WTF! Absolutely NOT! I vote for us bringing romance back. Try picking up your date, bring her a small token of 'love' or appreciation atleast for her time and open the car door for her, pull out the seat if you're going to dinner. It's the little things that go the distance.

This brings me to another thought. Internet dating....What do you think about finding your soulmate on match.com? I'm a bit hesitant myself but what are your thoughts? What other options do you have really if you feel as though you are too old for the club like I do? I just went out recently to Ten Pin with a friend and I told myself after having a hangover the next day, this is THE last time lol. I felt like I was amongst a bunch of children bumping into me and splashing my drink all over my clothes. Damn watch where the f*ck you are going lol but I have to remember that I'm a lady and not to speak in such ways lol Anyways let a sistah know what's on your mind.

Signing off singing "Ayo I'm tired of using technology, why don't you get on top of me, I need you right in front of me" lol 50 and Justin Timberlake

Minique~

Show Girlz Exclusive

2009-04-05T17:44:00.000-07:00

So I was put on to the Show Girlz magazine today and went online to see what all the hype is about. I've done some amateur modeling in my day just for fun and have gotten paid for it too but something in the back of my mind makes me consider if I could be in a real lingerie magazine. I mean the pictures I've taken for fun are sexy and scantily clad so why not? I wonder if I have what it takes to be a Show Girl. What do YOU think????
You just may see me in a magazine near you.......

Visit their website at www.showgirlzexclusive.com

Minique~

Edress ME!

2009-04-05T12:40:00.000-07:00

Ok so I have been pondering my friend's upcoming June wedding and I haven't a thing to wear. I have not attended a wedding since college and there have been so many new trends since then. I even googled the appropriate monetary gift or traditional wedding presents, however I know that now a days most people opt to do a gift registry which takes the guess work right out of the equation. Ok so anyways back to me lol I have been perusing the net for awhile and found the following dresses. There is so much to consider though, the bride is wearing white of course so that's out and nothing remotely similar to a wedding gown will do either. Then you don't want to have too much pizazz because you don't want to out do the bride lol Let me know what you think of these ladies.....

Minique~

I'm a Shoe WHORE 4 sure!

2009-04-05T10:06:00.000-07:00

I was just laughing at how many shoes I brought over my man's house just in case.....

Minique~

The ART of Conversation

2009-04-05T07:30:00.000-07:00

How many times have you heard, "Communication is key!" This is so true and relates to all aspects of life including both business and personal. You can not have a successful 'relationship' with anyone with out effective communication skills. As a 20 something lol year old woman, I am learning alot these days about my personal communication style and how that either aides or hinders me in my personal life as well as business relationships. I know personally that I communicate more effectively via writing than orally but I'm working on merging the two skills so that they coincide.
There is definitely an ART to conversation. How often do you find yourself in an elevator with 5 to 6 individuals all looking up at the ceiling, straight forward or down at their feet? This has always puzzled me. Is it because people feel uncomfortable speaking to strangers, feel awkward in such an enclosed space or are people just generally rude? IDK
When it comes to personal acquaintances, conversation is very essential. When speaking with a friend over the phone, she mentioned that someone she knows decided to end a relationship because their partner tended to watch television often and could not hold a decent conversation because she was always disengaged from 'reality.' The ability to hold a 'decent conversation' is vital in your personal relationships, especially if this is someone you wish to spend the rest of your life with. What happens when you are old and grey and can no longer engage in that physical activity you currently use to express yourself? You will need to have the ability to converse that's what. Older couples spend their precious time talking and reminiscing about the good times, so if you can't hold a decent conversation then what's life going to be like for you in your elder years as a couple?
The art of conversation includes both the ability to speak effectively as well as listen attentively. Don't you hate it when you are speaking to someone and they cut you off in the middle of your thought in order to interject theirs? This is not only rude but an ineffective communication style. You can not possibly be listening to what the other party has said if you jump right in before they are able to complete their sentence. Also it is often said that "Reality is Perception." You may intend on meaning one thing with what you say, however the reality is how the receiving party perceives it. I have often been at fault with this one myself. You have to remember to watch your tone and delivery so that your thoughts are communicated just as you intend them to be received.
The art of conversation is a learned skill that you develop from early childhood and it continues to evolve as you interact with new people. If no one has ever complained about your conversation or communication methods then congratulations, you are a master at it; however if it has been brought to your attention I would only suggest that you take heed. If so, you will likely find that you attract the attention you wish and command the respect that you deserve and you will notice a dramatic difference in the way that other's perceive you and your new image.

Minique~

Interracial Dating

2009-04-05T06:52:00.000-07:00

I have been pondering this topic since viewing the movie, Australia, the other day. Featured in the movie was a mixed boy named Nahla whose mixed ethnicity of White and Aborigine deemed him being labeled as a "creamy." His complexion was caramel with almond shaped eyes and sunkissed curly locks. A very handsome little fellow I might add, was in danger of being taken away from his mother and native land to be cast into a 'boarding school' simply because of his race and being labeled as 'wild.' HIs own white father tried to kill him in the movie as to avoid being found out. This entire scenario made me thing about interracial dating and the differences as well as challenges some still face today, in 2009, in what is supposedly a nation of many liberties.
The controversy around interracial dating and marriage has existed for many centuries. Most opposition has stemmed from insecurities and fear of 'racial impurity.' As you may know, many moons ago, interracial marriage and or dating was banned in many countries including the great United States. Although, now in 2009, these banning laws are nonexistent, there still exists an underlying discontent for interracial marriage, especially when it comes to mixing the black and white race. I personally think that those White racists would rather see an Asian and White or Hispanic and White couple as opposed to a White woman with a Black Man. This sentiment leads me to my next question. For those who choose to date outside their race, what is it that drives you to 'something new?' What are the differences if any found when dating outside of your race? I have always heard comedians talk about the ABW and this being the reason why brothas flock in droves to date a White woman, as we supposedly have too much attitude and sass to deal with. Contrarily I've also heard Black women complain about there not being an ample population of educated, progressive thinking and employed brothas to choose from so they flock towards dating white men. For me, I know that I want to marry an educated, employed and progressive man myself. I don't think that I am opposed to dating outside my race. I've dated a Dominican, Puerto Rican and Ghanian man in the past but ultimately in the back of my mind I still believe that there is nothing better than a 'Black' man for me lol It is just something about their swagga, physique, complexion and driven attitude. I'm not saying that I can not find this in a man of another race but I would prefer to wed and raise my children with a man of my own race. I guess the old saying of "Don't knock it til you try it" rings loudly here. What could be the harm? What are your thoughts???????

Minique~

Dominican Hair Salons

2009-04-02T07:36:00.000-07:00

If you are a New York woman you know as well as I do that there is nothing like a Dominican "Doobie" as we like to call it. I love going to the Dominican Salons for several reasons. They are well known for giving you healthy hair from using their Dominican conditioners (Diez de Uno), roller sets that give you that va va voom, they are very inexpensive and quite fast at rolling and blowing your hair once dried. I personally go to Milly's Dominican Salon on Austell Road in Austell, GA. My stylist is Ruth and she is awesome plus I get to practice my Espanol too :0) Milly's even does $19 wash n sets and $45 relaxers' on Tuesdays. On a regular day the wash n set is $25. Now I know as a native New Yorker that these prices can be seen as astronomical compared to a measly $10 you can pay back home but for GA they are on point and much less expensive than going to a black salon where I have to wait all damn day and pay out the you know what!

If you are ever in the neighborhood visit Milly's. You won't be disappointed.

They can be reached at 678-324-8969.

When I Grow Up!...

2009-03-31T13:41:00.000-07:00

Recently my counterpart wrote about her visit to a strip tease class, and titled it, "I wanna be a stripper when I grow up!". Well, I went to an actual strip club this weekend, and I must say, the strippers there were surely all grown up!, lol. The things those woman can do with their bodies, lol...I must say, I was thoroughly impressed. And the way that they command full attention of all the men in their prescence, is an admirable quality! Their bodies make you want to run out and get a Brazillian, lol! I tell you, it takes some real balls to have enough confidence to strut around naked and have strangers practically all up and in between your everything! They flirt, they tease, they flaunt, they smile....they make their money, and their on there way!...and aint nothing wrong with that at all!:)

~J.Genese

A Piece of ME

2009-03-31T12:49:00.001-07:00

I had the privellege of hanging out with my best buddy this weekend and doing something a little different, as she put it. We went to see "A Piece of Me", a stage play by playwright Jermaine Smith. The premise for the play was a young man trying to battle the anger and contempt that he held for his abusive and alcoholic father in the midst of a troubling time, and when his father and family needed him the most. This play dealt with drug abuse, sexual abuse, infidelity, and strengthening family ties...all the while sprinkling in The Lord, here and there. Now I have never been to what I would call a "religious play", nor would I categorize myself as an avid church goer, but the message of the play was loud and clear, and I didnt need a Bible to understand it.

"A Piece of Me" was cleverly written and very entertaining, once the ball got rolling. But my only discrepancy with it would be the issue of sex, which the play touched on by having a short, somewhat awkward scene, about being celibate. Now I know many a church goer who tote their Bible around M-F, and then are "shakin' it fast" in the club by the weekend. Their preaching fidelity and celibacy on one day, and then are trying to get in your pants the next. I went to Atlantic City this weekend, a mini sin city, and was almost trampled in the crowd trying to get on the bus back home at 6 in the morning because people were trying to make it to 9am church service! I mean come on, shouldnt we be practicing what we preach?, as the old saying goes...

~J. Genese

The NEW Path Train!!

2009-03-31T11:10:00.001-07:00

So I finally got to take a ride on the NEW and improved Path train this morning, and I must say that I was thoroughly impressed! As soon as I saw it pull into the station my eyes lit up!, and upon entering through one of the 3 sets of doors, they got even bigger! First of all, the cars are huge!, providing way more riding space for commuters. The seats are extra big and provide just the right amount of space for riders to sit comfortably during their trek from NJ to NY, and vice versa. There's a nice and loud automated "conducter voice" which announces each stop and the next, so that riders can be fully aware of where they are headed. Thats going to be great for tourists, who always seem to hop on the wrong train, lol. And last but not least, the ride was very smooth and quiet....providing a nice and easy ride to start off my work day!:)

Nice going NJ Transit!

~J.Genese

WTC...FINALLY Making Progress...

2009-03-31T08:35:00.000-07:00

As we embark upon the 8th anniversary of the tragic World Trade Center catastrophe, I am some what delighted to say that we are finally making progress. I travel to New Jersey every day on my commute to work, and have passed the WTC site almost everyday after its re-opening. As Ive looked out the window over the years Ive noticed the snail paced progress that was being made in the attempts to rectify and recover the site where the World Trade Center once stood. I slowly started to not even bother to look, because the debris filled site was just a constant reminder of what once was, and of how far we had to go to get to where we needed to be.

Well out of the rubble and ashes and debris rises a new clean slate that builders have started working on to bring forth the new and improved World Trade Center....I'd like to call it a great progress in the making...

~J. Genese

Everybody's Different

2009-03-31T06:47:00.000-07:00

Everybody's Different....

Everyone is different stems from a radio talk show I listened to yesterday while running to the dollar general :0) The radio jockey talked about how the current economy is affecting couple's relationships. He went on to say that although the two people decide that they no longer wish to be involved because of the economy many are choosing to remain in the same home and in some instances remain to have so called 'guiltless' sex. WTF! Is it that hard to move out on your own and set up shop on your own turf? Once married couples decide to get a divorce or 'separation' yet still sleep in the same bed for the sake of the wallet oh and let's not forget about how confused the children must be after you've sat them down for the "This is not working" talk yet they see you two behaving as you would on a normal day. I just don't get it????? but I have to remind myself that everybody is different.

Minique~

Angry Black Woman

2009-03-30T09:55:00.000-07:00

I had a conversation recently with a man in my life about the "Angry Black Woman," and he had the nerve (neck rolling) to say that I could be categorized as an ABW because I don't like stupidity and often get angered at adults displaying ignorance and lack of commonsense. I beg your pardon Sir! lol Just kidding but really the ABW has often been categorized as a black woman who is achievement oriented, kind of no nonsense, not particularly kind or compassionate but driven. I would admit that I am driven when it comes to things I am passionate about but by no means am I an angered woman who always is walking around with a frown on my face and my hand on my hips. I am not a tart-tounged, neck rolling, loud mouthed sistah. I am not ghetto-fabulous, I do not feel as though my life is grim and bleek and nor am I anyone's babymomma looking for a hand out or mad at the "Man" for my position in life. Today the ABW is so ingrained in our society that the tag gets slapped on the back of any black woman who is assertive or in a position of power. I must admit yes one of my biggest pet peeves is stupidity. I am angered when interacting with adults who feel as tough ignorance is bliss and common sense is optional BUT I am not an ABW.

I am me ;0)

Minique~

The Ex Factor

2009-03-29T09:46:00.001-07:00

"By all means, move at a glacial pace-you know how that thrills me!"

I love that line from Devil Wears Prada and it is most appropriate for my topic on the Ex Factor. I was talking with a girlfriend the other day and this topic has been on my mind recently. The topic I am referring to is how long do you have to wait for a ring before he becomes the "Ex Factor?" I dated my last guy for about 3 years and we hardly ever talked about engagement and if we did it was in third party. Come on give me a break? I have learned sooooo much about myself and what I want going forward and for starters I certainly am NOT dating for 3 years and counting on a ring. That is just absurd. Don't you know if I'm the one within the 1st year? I get wanting to wait awhile, perhaps move in together, meet the family, check out the credit history etc but even all that can be done in two years. What's the sense in playing house if you don't want to settle in it? I'm getting older and as I approach my 30th birthday I continue to think about two of my future goals 1. Getting married and 2. Having children and most certainly in that order too! As I unpacked my Opera gift bag this morning from Saturday night, I came across a b card entitled Ex-cessories, which sounded interesting so of course I went on their website and Ta daaah I was faced with luxurious jewls given to women by their ex's LMAO this is great! Their modo is "Don't get mad....Break Even!" How appropriate for a woman scorned whose been wearing her engagement years for the past 5 years and he won't set a date.......

Visit their site at www.ex-cessories.com

Minique~

The Female Hater

2009-03-29T09:17:00.001-07:00

I'm starting with the famous question, "Can't we all just get along?" Apparently NOT! I love females as friends and being one myself I think that it's nothing greater than a genuine and long lasting female friendship. Even one of my best friends is none other than my 2 che partner, J.Genese and I don't even see her annually either. We chat over the phone and online mostly but I still feel a strong connection to her regardless. I thought of this concept of the female hater stemming from my work experiences. I experienced subtle and blatant hate at my last employer and most of it was quite comical. It came from peers and a supervisor alike and I viewed it as 'hate' all the same. I mean why can't a woman give another woman a compliment on her shoe you just eye fcked instead of rolling your eyes or if you admire another's shape because she doesn't have the muffin top you've been carrying around for the past 5 years or the fact that her real hair is actually more luxurious than the wig sitting atop your dome or that she is a professional- looks the part and certainly speaks it and you think she's a sell out trying to be white. Get a grip speaking, English is not selling out ladies. Read a damn book! Oh and let's not forget the famous fashion inquiry of "Where did you get that?" and you are met with the response of Paris or Milan or something totally ridiculous and facetious. Yeaaaah right, find it on a map &itch! lol I thought recently with the possible opportunity to work in an all black establishment that "Oh this is going to be sooo cool working around my sistahs!" but then I had a conversation with some female friends who explained that the 'hate' factor might just get kicked up a notch. I was so disappointed in hearing this but I can't even front like I didn't get a few dirty looks during my 4 day working interview. I'm looking for an applause when I walk through the door and my suit makes you wish you could change lol It's so disheartening when I hear females say I only have male friends because females are so 'catty." So I ask again, "Can't we all just get along?"

Minique~

WEEZY F BABY

2009-03-29T07:04:00.000-07:00

Anyone who knows me knows that I love hardcore rap music. Over the years I've been playing the same ole' Clue cd from back in 98 but my favorite rapper of all time has to be Lil Wayne aka Weezy F Baby! I just love his swagger, his lyrics and that infamous laugh he does on the records. I adore that "I can't feel my face" cd he produced with Juelz Santa. Wayne is not only a great rap artist turned rockstar but also an intellectual as well as I learned on his interview with Katie Kurick.

Minique~

The Gold Package

2009-03-28T14:21:00.001-07:00

Let's see what your packing....

Now all the ladies know that there are some men out there living in a false reality when it comes to size. We've all heard the infomercials "Does size really matter?" lol Um heck yeah lol and this is only the start of the issue. Where shall I begin? I'm sure you've encountered some that maybe in their dreams, feel that their penis is large and packing…hefty enough to be worthy of Magnum brand protection; however the branding clearly states XL on the box so if you are swimming in it then maybe you need something more the size of a small waterballon perhaps. You know the kind that you had to struggle to fit over the faucet to fill when you were little lol I don’t know what’s so special about this particular condom anyway but I’m convinced that the gold foil packaging has something to do with it. Anything with gold foil says, “Exclusive,” especially to the unsuspecting woman that doesn't know he can't fit the bill. Ladies get excited when they see the gold foil come out because they are thinking logically that "Oh my he needs to wear a MAGNUM hmmm he must be large and in charge." But…I and other women feel that some of you are abusing the Magnum Gold Foil Membership. And you know who you are. LOL

Minique~

Footnote-inspired by Black Girl in the City

I wanna be a stripper when I grow up!

2009-03-28T13:31:00.000-07:00

Last night I went to Opera to attend the Pole la Teaz demonstration. I was invited by a friend that is a member of their gym and I've heard rave reviews. Last night the class was focused on sexy walking and moves to stimulate your partner. Now while the instructions were very elementary for me lol I can see the benefit of attending one of the more advanced classes. I've been to quite a few of the clubs here in Atlanta to name a few: Body Tap, Magic City, Dirty Rats lol, and Dancers' Elite. I've learned a thing or two from just watching but I imagine that there is nothing like actual hands on learning! They have a class entitiled "Jiggle It" that focuses on how to work a woman's greatest asset "her ass." :0) I think I will sign myself up for one of their casual classes for $15 and see for myself all that Pole la Teaz has to offer. Clear heels here I come! lmao

visit their website at www.polelateaz.com and see if they have a show on the road near you ;0)

Minique~

Meet me on Lafayette

2009-03-27T14:00:00.000-07:00

Who said work attire has to be stuffy? I came across Lafayette 148 New York in a magazine I flipped through today, sorry don't remember the title but I did remember this clothing designer. I thought their designs although some are rather pricy the sale section is not half bad. Meet me on Lafayette and I will be wearing one of the fly outfits posted below. Visit their website at www.lafayette148store.com

Minique~

Put a spring in your step with Peter Som 2009 collection

2009-03-27T13:42:00.001-07:00

www.petersom.com

Minique~

Competitive Advantage....

2009-03-26T15:44:00.000-07:00

Think you know your competition? Think again. What gives you competitive advantage over your competition in your business and personal relationships? I read the book cover of Competitive Advantage and this title sent a blaring alarm off in my head. It's rather catchy and makes perfect sense. I thought about it from both perspectives of business and personal. On the business side marketing and technology is key. Long gone are the days where you can survive without a website and referrals can only keep you afloat for so long. Shoot even a day laborer might get more business if he had a vcard! You have to get your brand name out there so it becomes a household name and even so outside the normal circles in which you do business. I learned while working at RBC that you should keep a pipeline of leads and this pipeline is fed by your inner circle. As it relates to that particular business your inner circle would be a real estate agent, lawyer, physican, insurance agent and other bankers. These five professions in relation to banking would help to generate new business for you. Think about what businesses you patronize and how they can in turn help to grow your business. I love learning and applying it to other avenues which brings me to the personal side of things. Personally I like to support black businesses first. I'm so tired of hearing how little the dollar is circulated in my community before it ends up back in general population. I even sport at "Bought Black" button on my members only jacket and often get comments and inquiries on it. Although I originally got it from buying Jay Z's black album it has alternative meaning for me. Also when I think of personal relationships in terms of courting you market yourself to the best of your ability in order to attract those that you wish to 'patronize' your business. We do this alot better in our personal pursuits than on the business front and I think if we can figure out a way to marry them both we could discover a goldmine.

Minique~

Black and White and Sometimes Grey

2009-03-26T13:56:00.000-07:00

I was just thinking about the differences 'if any' there are between black and white businesses. I've had the pleasure of working for a black owned small business this past week and was truly inspired by being in the company of such an intelligent African American CEO. After getting my barrings together and being more comfortable in my environment I started to think to myself of how 'different' it felt being in an all black corporate environment. Over my career I've had several supervisor's and only one was African American. I don't know if by default but she was my favorite and mostly likely it is because of our chemistry and mutual respect for one another. I noticed that when you take away the 'racial barrier' it has been my experience that I felt free to really perform to my best ability and not feel as though there were underlining meanings to feedback and certain instances that can occur. At my last employer there were times where I would be speaking to a co-worker and the supervisor would walk by and the co-worker would almost scurry back to their desk almost as if to motion "Let me get back in line before Massa get's mad!" lol Now I am making light of the situation here but it did bother me enormously that there was always a feeling of walking on eggshells in some corporate environments. I pray that I am hired FT at this new BLACK place of business so that I can grown and reach my best potential being mentored by one of my own. ;)

Minique~

Emotional (Wo)MEN

2009-03-26T13:17:00.000-07:00

When it comes to emotions, its women that are usually pegged as being "overly sensitive", or "too emotionally attached", and so on and so forth. And while I will admit that I do have my fare share of emotions, I many times find that it's MEN who are just as, if not even more emotional than women are. I need a strong, confident, supportive man. I cant tell you how many men I know that act more like a (wo)man than I do. Sensitivity is all well and good, and I love a man that can express his feelings with you and show a softer side, NOW AND THEN, but there is nothing worse than a whinny, complaining, super sensitive, overly dramatic man! Come one! Who's really wearing the pants here? I always find it funny when I hear my girlfriends complaining about how they just wanted to have sex (ill say that instead of the 4 letter word of choice), and the guy wanted to cuddle and caress! Or when I have (wo)men catching a hissy fit because I didnt return or answer there phone call or text them back in a timely manner. Isnt it supposed to be the other way around?, according to what men say? Pleeease!, Ive had (wo)men show up at my doorstep, friends houses, or other places where they knew I would be just because I didnt answer their call!, lol....now Ive never been that emotional!...

....so I guess its safe to say that when it comes to being emotional, both sexes are guilty as charged!...what do you think?...

~J. Genese

Soooo ANNOYING!!!......(in connection with My Morning Commute)

2009-03-26T08:23:00.000-07:00

-People who jump on the train, clearly not knowing where they're going, and after 2 or 3 stops then decide to ask someone, "hey does this train stop at ...?" You couldve saved yourself the trouble if you wouldve asked before you got on the train buddy!!
.
-Sitting next to bad a** chilren on the train! If I see a child coming to sit next to me I switch seats!, lol....

-OMG!, people who when they hear the train coming have to cover their ears like they've never heard it before! We all know the train is loud...knock it off!!, you've heard it before!!

-People who sit on the train floor, or on the floor in the train station...and by people, I mean

w_ i_e people...fill in the blanks!

-When someone is intent on squeezing themselves into a seat that them and their puffy coat cant fit in!

-Slicked down bangs that swoop to the side!, lol...I just remembered seeing a girl with her hair like that on the train, and I got a flashblack of highschool...as in 1998....as in, leave that hair style in 1998 already!!!

-People who rush to sit down...and then get off at the next stop!!

-People who get on the train before allowing others to get off!!!...and people who clearly see me getting off yet their talking about "excuse me" and are trying to get by....you see me getting off too!!!

-For WTC Path train riders...people who dont know, or cant see that clearly one side of the escalator is for those who choose to walk and the other is for those who choose to simply stand and escalate!....get off the wrong side and out of the way!!

-The infamous "candy sellers" who "are not raising money for no basketball team, but so that they can have money in their pockets"....BEAT IT!!!!!!

-When you're on the escalator and you turn around and someone is standing right behind you all up on your back!...give me a step worth of space pleeease people!, a step worth of space!

-The whole B, C train line!!!

...I could go on all day!!!

~J.Genese

My MORNING COMMUTE

2009-03-25T09:55:00.000-07:00

Train Sightings...

...so much to see and comment on during my morning commute!

-Ahhh, someone just walked past and I can smell the scent of baby powder!, and I know its one of those baby powder scented oils!, I love the scent of baby powder, its just so refreshing, especially in the morning...

-Orange pumps with a Louis Vuitton handbag? I dont know, but I think it kind of works for me...I applaud the splash of color!, go girl!...

-Ok air conditioning on the train??, ummm not when Im still wearing my winter coat! Get it together MTA!..

-Pink Uggs? I think I like them...

-Uggs and liquid leggings??...ummm....ok....?, lol...

-When did Louis Vuitton become the standard handbag?, sheeesh, another one...oooh its nice:)...

-Ok now I know this is a clearly a man sitting across from me with his tan knee boots, skinny jeans, aqua colored shoulder bag, and purple suede blazer....but he better work!, cover girl!!, lol...

-Oh how I love being in the way going down the stairs at the WTC station to the PATH train as all the New Jersians are getting off the train and trying to get up the stairs!:)...and they say New Yorkers are rude, as if! Learn how to share the staircase New Jersey!!!, sheeeesh! Thats why I always boguard my way down the stairs, even if the train already left...its the principal!!! Your in a hurry, so am I!!...he he he, not im not...but still!...

-Those sneaker shoes I see guys wearing, Maru's?, Mauri's?, Mauvi's?, whatever there called, there ugly...

....tune in next time!:)

~J. Genese

"REALITY" TV Time!

2009-03-23T09:42:00.000-07:00

Ok first, that picture above is funny, he he he...get it?...well alright anyways....its Reality TV Time, and boy do I watch a lot of it, Monday nights being the ring leader. I cant wait to see who's going home tonight on "Ray J of Love"!, and I think Unique and Danger are finally going to have it out. I must say, doll face Unique has been stepping up her game as of lately, I guess she really does have love for Ray J, or she just really wants to win the most. I think she's too big for him, lol, and omg she may have a beautiful face by far, but does that mean she has to dress like...like that?!, lol....and even though I say I dont watch "I Love Money 2", I already heard that its going to be funny tonight so ill probably tune in...I hope that dang green team finally loses cause Im tired of Safari, Buck Wild (with her fake "black girl"/hillbilly accent) and Frank the Entertainer thinking they running things on these challenges! Oooh!, and speaking of challenges, The infamous Real World/Road Rules challenge is coming back on!, and it looks good! But back to Monday, now I can only watch "I Love Money 2" in between "Dancing With the Stars" because I have to keep up with Lil Kim, who is doing awfully well, and my two favorite professionals, Edyta and Cheryll...man I long to have a ballroom dancers body!!, but I'll take a video girls body as well....and speaking of, I think I missed "Candy Girls" yesterday, but im sure I can catch it on the repeat. I thought I was making reality tv progress when I gave up watching "Rock of Love 2, or 3, or whatever number it is", because last week he got rid of my two favorites and most watchable ones, but Ive only migrated to a new show, "Tough Love", he he he...I dont know whats funnier to watch, this guy find love for 12 hopeless women, or "The Millionare Matchmaker" find love for hopeless men, millionares or not, there still pathetic. Thank goodness "The City" is off!, wheeew!....I get some time to breath before "The Hills" comes back on, yaaay! I still have to catch up on and catch the new "Real Housewives of NY" this week, and then tune in for the season finale of "The Bad Girls Club"...and then I think Im done with my reality TV fix for the week!

....now that wasnt so bad was it?:)

~J.Genese

Me....the Fashionista??

2009-03-23T08:52:00.000-07:00

Ok...not to toot my own horn, but I must say, when it comes to fashion, I do know a thing or two (or three). And its not just me that believes so, Im frequently complimented on everything from my shoes, to my accessories, to even the color of my nail polish, lol. Im always asked where do I work?, and have been told on numerous occassions that I belong working in a fashion. So last week I was having this same conversation with my mother, who's always admired my nonchalant sense of fashion. She told me that while I do look like I should be working in some type of fashion house, dont just go for any old store, I should aim for the big leagues! So on my morning commute to work I was inspired by our convo and decided to make a list of all the big league fashion houses. To think, I could be working for one of them. But who doesnt dream of working in fashion for a living you know? I guess thats what they call a pipe dream. But anywho, I got to work, and spent that Friday sending out my resume to the somewhat hard to find human resources departments of Gucci, Prada, Louis, and so on and so forth. And then I went on about my day. By Wednesday when my phone rang I had totally forgotten about my newfound career path, so I was in absolute shock when I was on the phone with a rep from Chanel doing a quick phone interview for a position! Needless to say I was inspired all over again! I can see it now....me walking down Fashion Avenue!, and really belonging there! Hey....you never know!:)

~J. Genese

I AM

2009-03-22T13:49:00.000-07:00

I AM....

BEAUTIFUL

FEMALE

BLACK

SISTER

SISTAH

GIRLFRIEND

LOVER

DAUGHTER

NIECE

AUNT

CREATIVE

SENSITIVE

WRITER

PAINTER

ARTIST

FREELANCE INTERIOR DESIGNER

YORKIE OWNER

SPIRITUAL

MOTIVATED

DETERMINED

HOME OWNER

FRIEND

BEST FRIEND

WOMAN

ATHLETIC

STRONG

INTELLIGENT

HAPPY

NATURAL

KNOWLEDGE SEEKER

INSPIRED

LAID BACK

FUN LOVING

FASHIONISTA

SHOE WHORE

OPTIMISTIC

HOPEFUL

CYBER BUDDY

I AM BORED lol (right now)

I feel a strong kinship with female entrepreneurs....

2009-03-22T13:03:00.000-07:00

I am truly inspired! I recently went on an interview with Vantage Point Staffing and was truly inspired by the possibility of working for one of their clients. The owner of my 'future employer' truly inspires me as she is a successful female black business owner and charitable woman as well. After conducting my research for this week's working interview and reading online all to learn about her past education, employment and charity involvement I was inspired to take charge of my life and give back to the community as well. I have been blessed many times over by God and should take time out of my life to give to someone less fortunate. I used to give back personally by mentoring a high school girl a few years ago as well as volunteered through my past employer's "Give" initiative; in which I started the first effort by coordinating a planting day at Excel, a community center for disabled men and women in Smyrna. I even was able to have a landscaping vendor of my former employer to donate free plant materials and soil to the community center. I was so pleased and proud of myself after we completed the project in knowing that I helped to shape the future of volunteering at LMGI. I look forward to signing myself up to volunteer and I especially would like to do so with some involvement in our youth's education and financial awareness.

If someone was to ask, "What inspires you most?" I would have to say the possibility of my future's potential.....Knowledge is empowering!

Minique~

Mommy Dearest

2009-03-21T05:50:00.000-07:00

Here is Kelis looking oh so 'Mommy Dearest' shopping in her maternity snakeskin cat suit and yellow flip flops. Nasir Jones aka Nas is following behind her as the protective thug like father to be in his fashionable polo, thermal, NY yankee and Adidas.

This picture makes me think of how I'd dress as a fashionable mom on the go? hmmmm

~Minique

Role Reversal

2009-03-20T07:51:00.000-07:00

I was chatting last night about a few topics of conversation and role reversal came into play. We were discussing relationships and how men and women can tend to fall into role reversal whether it is because of habit, adaptability or choice. I specifically thought about women, being female myself, and how many traditional male characterisitics one can embodie in this modern day. Let's take a moment to do a brief evaluation and answer yes or no to the following questions if you are female:

1. Do you own a screwdriver, hammer or drill and possess the knowledge of how to use it?
2. Can you change out a lightbulb?
3. Do you take out your own trash?
4. Can you do anything to your car, besides pumping gas, like changing a brake light etc if needed?
5. Can you aim, point and shoot a gun?
6. Do you bring home the lion's share of income if you are in a relationship?
7. Do you or have you ever pick (ed) up the bill when eating out with a male counterpart?
8. Can you or have you ever done what is considered man's yardwork, not gardening?
9. Can you do a man's push up? lol
10. Can you or have you ever moved furniture (light or heavy) on your own?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions do you feel as though this makes you 'masculine' in any way shape or form? Now I have to admit that I have been in relationships in the past where I owned more tools lol or knew how to fix something around the house that he did not; however all of the so called 'masculine' traits that I have first hand knowledge of first stems from my father teaching both myself and my brother how to do certain things in life or from adapting to men these days lacking in departments in which they should not. I chose the picture above with Angelina Jolee slouched in her office in the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith because she played a very powerful, successful woman who made just as much money as her man and could shoot with the best of them. I can have done all those things and more listed in my questions, let me know what you think? Does this make me more masculine than I should be as a woman or is it good for both women and men to know how to do some of the things that are usually associated with the opposite sex. Let me know your thoughts......

Minique~

Free as a Bird....

2009-03-19T16:56:00.000-07:00

Today I felt free as bird because I decided to rent a bike and go riding on the Silver Comet Trail. It was an impulse decision but I've contemplated it before on more than one occassion. Ok so I walked in past all the cool looking cycles and asked how much to rent a bike? The man kindly told me it would be 10 bucks for the regular comfort bike and upwards of 16 per hour for the space age, athletic bikes so I opted for the 10 dollar one. I gave them my cc information and off in the wind I went. I have to admit I was a bit wobbly on it at first as I hadn't rode a bike in years but I quickly adjusted and was speeding past the walking folks. I felt like a kid again with the wind beneath my wings and listening to the nature surrounding me. Ahhhh I felt a sense of serenity.

I'mma a DIVA

2009-03-19T16:50:00.000-07:00

Designed by Ines Kaag and Desiree Heiss, The Bless collaborative has come up with some of the most interestings designs out there. The Fringe Glasses are a great example. If you've been dying to get your hands on glasses seen adorning the face of Beyonce in the I'm a Diva video cop a pair of these. Available at Colette.

Minique~

Silence is Golden

2009-03-16T18:06:00.001-07:00

Silence is defintely golden. I find myself taking a mental vacation these days and retreating in the dark corners of my mind for some blissful silence. It is hard to find peace and serenity in a world filled with noise from the cars driving by with their loud music or motors, children playing and laughing in the streets, alarms blarring from firetrucks and ambulances, horns honking, the radio playing in the car or someone's voice in conversation. I have so much on my mind these days and I need a mental vacation.

Shhhhhhh!

Minique~

Salsa Time!!...aye! aye!

2009-03-16T10:58:00.000-07:00

I had the most fun this weekend hanging out with my college friends at Columbus 72 Nightclub in the city! This sophisticated club featured the latest hip-hop, r&b, and pop music on one side, and then the hottest, (ok like I know whats hot latin music!, lol...hey it sounded hot to me:) Latin music on the other! We began the night on the hip-hop side, but I knew we wouldnt stay there for long since 2 out of 4 of us were of Spanish heritage....so off to the other we went! Now, Im not one to brag, but I have dabbled in a Salsa lesson here and there, he he he. I think I impressed myself, dancing, swaying, spinning, and dipping all in my 4 inch leopard stilletos! But that lasted all of about 1 hour!!, lol...I thought I was doing something too!, lol...I cant hang like I used to! We got there at 11pm, on the dot mind you....and by like 1:30am we were heading for the dinner!!, lol....man....the life of an almost (30) year old!

Check it Out!

http://www.columbus72.com/

~J. Genese

I WANT Her HAIR!!

2009-03-13T10:50:00.000-07:00

I think Im going to take this picture to my hair dresser...go head Chrisette Michelle!

~J. Genese

GAGA for Lady GaGa!!!

2009-03-13T10:26:00.000-07:00

A woman with style is my kind of woman! Hot on the scene right now, I am absolutely L.O.V.I.N.G Lady GaGa!! Not only is her albulm hot, but so is she! With expressive and bold lyrics, catchy hooks, and "dance" beats galore, "The Fame" is definitely one albulm I will be downloading onto my ipod. I listented to "p p p poker face, p p poker face" like 10 times on my commute to work this morning, and it surely put a pep in my step! But not only have I become a fan of her music, I love her style too. Just as she says what she wants in her lyrics, she also wears what she wants too! Not afraid "to go there" makes her edgy and unique. She has a style all her own, that I dont think too many will dare to emmulate...

...im GaGa for Lady GaGa!!:)

~J.Genese

Fab Finds at Forever 21

2009-03-07T08:09:00.001-08:00

So I just love these dresses from Forever 21. I want to add a few more to my arsenal for the spring and summer seasons. There is nothing sexier on a woman in the spring/summer than a chic dress and some fly shoes. I also love the casual look of some fashion jeans and a cute graphic tee topped off with accessories and of course The Shoe!

Minique~

Tummy Time

2009-03-07T07:57:00.000-08:00

Ok I was just browsing online and saw a pic of an old college friend with great abs. I mean not an ounce of fat in her midsection and she has a little bit of curves too. So I said to myself damn it! I have to get it together. There is no reason why I shouldn't have abs like the woman in the picture and starting today I'm going to get on a plan to get my abs tight and right! lol After all, what's stopping me? I can still eat good but not as much and exercise is key. I think I can do it and there's no time like the present. Summer is just around the bend and I want to look nice in my clothes.

Military may be the way to go!

2009-03-06T16:45:00.000-08:00

I have been considering joining the military recently as a civilian officer. The pay grade is out of this world and the benefits are incomparable plus I would be able to retire before I'm 50 years old! Wow! The only thing that kills me is that I would have to wear a stinking uniform. yuck lol I'd have to save my fashionista wardrobe til the weekends or after work. I think I will speak with a recruiter this coming week and find out more about it. I don't want to make a hasty decision but just using this time of unemployment as a means to reinvent myself and to come out better than I was before!

Minique~

Ageless Beauty

2009-03-06T12:03:00.001-08:00

Ok so I'm driving along to the subdivison just now and as I passed this young thug on the sidewalk I thought to myself now he really needs a make over! I was laughing at him to myself while he bopped down the street in his oversized clothing and fake chain thinking that he is tough or something. lol I looked up in my rearview mirror to see him throwing up his hands as if he thought my stare was a look of lust or something and he wanted to signal to me to holler at him. lmao Then as I entered the first street I passed two more young and impressionable high school males who eyed me til I pulled up in the driveway. One of them shouted out hey you must be about 18 huh lol I blushed and yelled back "um no" and he said well you look like it. Well that just made my day! I sure hope he wasn't lying lol

I am all WOMAN

2009-03-05T13:16:00.000-08:00

"You are a delicate flower, soft & warm, feminine in every way, nothing less than a lady... My lady" These are the poetic words I received in a text from my man yesterday and they brought a smile to my face! Awww how sweet it is to be loved. I love being a woman. I was just thinking the other day how great it is to be female. We rule the world and bring life and comfort to all. I just love doing my make up, wearing different fashions, indulging myself with a new recipe or making a mess of something in the kitchen, changing up my hairstyles, smelling like a "japanese cherryblossom", and most of all having a vagina lol I know I know so lude but it is the one thing that all women have and can use to our advantage. I'm not talking about selling it just 'using what yo momma gave ya.' lol Like S.Harvey said in his book, "ya'll women just don't know how good you have it and how much power you give to men when you give away that cookie to one that is undeserving."

On another note...
I love that the weather is breaking here now because sunshine is my favorite kind of weather. I wish it could be sunny always but I do appreciate the life that rain brings to the earth.

Minique~

Harlem Heights Review

2009-03-05T09:59:00.000-08:00

So this past Monday the new BET show "Harlem Heights" debuted. Living in Harlem, I must say, I can appreciate the show for the way it shines light on various boutiques, lounges, and other hot spots throughout the Harlem neighborhood. I mean who knew there was a wine bar or a high end mens suit store literally 5 blocks away from my house. The show delves into the lives of these 8, 20something, positive men and woman living, loving, partying, working, and pursuing their dreams, but it also delves into the great neighborhood of Harlem. It lets people see what Harlem does have to offer, what makes it unique, and why its a Mecca for many African Americans today. Thats what i enjoyed most about the show...

~J. Genese

I WANT Her HAIR!!!

2009-03-05T09:35:00.000-08:00

Ok....I dont know what that is, how I find it, where I put it, or what to do with it....but I want her hair! OMG!, how I do love Rihanna so! I love a woman about style, a woman with her own style, and a woman strong enough to pull of a variety of looks...and that she is! Having just acquired a new short do of my own, Im just getting comfortable with showing it off and styling it myself. I cant wait for it to grow out a little more so I can rock the Rihanna-esque look.....tre' fabulous!!!!:)

~J. Genese

Time for Whats on My Mind...

2009-03-05T08:33:00.000-08:00

All my good morning texts and emails were met with replies of how wonderful my girl friends nights were, meaning, how wonderful the sex was last night! I guess everyone took it being "Hump" day to heart:) I must say my favorite good morning reply today was from my...ummm..."special friend", "significant other", whatever the term is for someone you've been "dating" for almost 2 years but doesnt want to technically be in a relationship (??, I know)...anywho, it was my absolute favorite because he just got "tested", after I did last week, and Im proud to say that we're both NEGATIVE. You can practice safe sex, and try to hopefully remain in a monogamous relationship with whoever your with, but those 20 minutes of wait can be the most nerve racking of a person's life. Just imagine, in one instant your life is changed, FOREVER...

So tomorrow is one of my bestest friends birthday party and I cant wait! Since getting older, birthdays seem to be the only time when EVERYONE comes out to party now, and her birthday and my birthday are like the two highlights of the year, her's kicks it off and mines ends it, lol. I bought a dress like 3 weeks ago in anticipation and even shoes to match, I dont have a bag though, which means im going to have to make a mad dash to 34th street after work tomorrow and hope theres a grey clutch with my name on it out there!...he he he, im so excited!, I better have fun too:)
And my hair looks so cute today too, of course cause im just at work doing nothing, now watch tomorrow when im trying to achieve this look its gonna look like anything but!...

I found a new lunch spot that im going to try out today. Ive been stalking this place for weeks now, casually trying to peak through the window as I'd walk by, lol. Yesterday I finally took the time to stop and read the menu I saw posted on the door, and they seem to have pretty good food selections and prices. The winner for me was the "create your own salad" with 4 toppings starting at $3.95!!!, the place I go to now for my create your own salad is freakin $6.50!!! Its so expensive to eat healthy...he he he, speaking of healthy...last night I was laying in bed and an old Tyra show came on and it was about obese teens. They started showing the guests, 15, 16, and 17 year olds that weighed like 200, 300, and even 400 pounds! As soon as I saw them why did I get out of bed, at 12:30am, and did like 50 crunches!!!, lol...

And speaking of Tyra, I watched the new season of America's Next Top Model last night. I must say, they'll never be another Eva Diva!, she was the most gorgeous Top Model to come from that show...I had her pegged from the moment I saw her on the commercials. This new crop of model "wanna-be's" is so so, I dont see any stand out winners like with Eva, but I see some with potential. I liked a girl who goes by the name of Fo. She's Black and Mexican and has the most cutest freckles ever...I want freckles!, lol. Oh!, they showed a commercial for applicants for next season of the show (already?, I know right), and there suprisingly looking for girls who are 5'7 and under!! I think the age range is up to 24 or 25 though...man if I was...2 years younger!!!...he he he....

...stay tuned for next thoughts!

~J. Genese

The rock of Love.

2009-03-04T09:39:00.000-08:00

I am truly touched by my 'boyfriend' Jason's recent showing of affection and love in my most trying time of need and support. I hate to use the term boyfriend because he has truly shown me just how endearing a real man can be. Although we have gone through some rough spots as any other couple usually does. I think with tenancity, goodwill and determination love can conquer all. I greatly appreciate how he's opened up to me and shared some of his personal life experiences which has helped me to see the bigger picture. It always helps to seek advice from those who've already 'gone through the fire.' Thanks Jason for being there and for being YOU. ;0) I really do feel loved.

SAVE SAVE SAVE AND SAVE SOME DAMN MORE!

2009-02-26T17:27:00.000-08:00

This picture speaks volumes for millions now and even louder for me. I was recently laid off from my job and even with one of my best friends losing his job not but 8 months ago it didn't send off a blaring alarm in my head or wallet to save more and buckle down. Today while standing in line to apply for unemployment and foodstamps I found myself mentally kicking my own ass for not preparing for such a time. I've always heard before "Plan for the worst and hope for the best!" but I guess I thought my life was just fine until Tuesday February 24th at 8:33 AM when I was delivered the lethal blow of lay off. I always like to think very highly of myself but I have to tell you that standing amongst what society deems as the 'low income' and welfare receipients today was a truly humbling experience. If you don't learn anything from my message learn this, "Tomorrow is NOT promised to be as grand as you think today is so SAVE FOR THAT RAINY DAY cause it will come."

Minique~

My new office is at the Library

2009-02-25T06:37:00.000-08:00

My new office is at the library. Yesterday morning I awoke as usual, got dressed in my fashionable navy blue pin striped suit with matching pearl accessories and I was off to work. I arrived at approximately 8:33 and only had a brief moment to clock in and set my purse down when my supervisor stepped into my cube and almost whispered "Can I see you in my office when you have a sec?" I already knew what what going on when I walked down the hallway. I braced myself for the inevitable and sat down next to the Regional Vice President and across from my supervisor. There was an envelope on her desk with my name on it and she started to read off a paper. Her first words were "Unfortunately due to the nature of the economy....." I think I went deaf for a brief moment afterwards and all I heard next was ""We are going to have to lay you off." I looked up from my clasped hands at her and she looked like she was trying to muster up her most empathetic facial expression but it felt ingenuine all the same to me. After I read over the terms of my separation notice and my severance package I retrieved my hard copies, blotted my eyes from a few tears and headed to my desk to retrieve my belongings. I opted for them to mail me most of my things since it was now nearing 9 AM and I didn't want to be faced with anyone in the hallway duirng my departure. Although after heading straight to the library afterwards and signing myself into one of the private study rooms so that I could collect my thoughts and start applying for my new future I can't help but feel somewhat relieved. I didn't like my job at all but I can't say that I hated it. I moreso tolerated it for the 2.5 years I worked in that cube. I like to think highly of myself and I needed to be doing something more challenging and creative. Times are definitely hard out here and I'm a homeowner. You'd think that would be a good thing but in the midst of being unemployed you have to learn to live off of your savings, whatever that may be, and your Uncle Sam check just to keep your home. I was a bit disheartened when I went online last night to watch a video about homeowners fighting the banks and it started with a woman who lost her 40K a year accounting position and is now living in the dark without utilities just to pay her mortgage. This is only day one for me and I am here at my new office, the library, because I figure if I got up and spent 8 plus hours doing a job I didn't like I could atleast spend half the time planning for my new future.

~Minique

What Is In YOUR Bag??!@$%!???...

2009-02-18T09:45:00.000-08:00

My bag is "out of control!!" lol. I mean literally, it must weigh at least 7 pounds, and Im just being nice. After lugging it all the way to work this morning, and knocking into numerous things and people with it, Ive finally decided to actually take a look and see what 7 pounds of importance looks like, cause clearly I cant live without this stuff!

Now off the top I know I have my essentials, my comb and brush, my umbrella and hat, since I actually did my hair this morning and decided just to throw the hat in the bag since I hear there's a chance of rain later, and the ever important cell phone (with charger of course). There's my makeup bag which i TRY to keep to a minimal, checkbook, iPod...my friends iPod, wallet, sunglasses (even though there is not a stitch of sun in the sky...actually, as I glance out the window I see snow flurries), gloves, 2 hand sanitizers, and my bag of candy!:) I have 2 bottles of nail polish, cause you never know when you may chip a nail and need to reapply with a top coat, oh and with that my little handy mini manicure set, you know, mini file, cutters and so forth. I see my camera...for emergency pictures. I see a not so travel size bottle of Victoria's Secret Coconut Sugar body lotion, and body spray. There's a spare set of earrings, Tweezerman eye brow tweezers (the best tweezers ever!), keys, dental floss, and the ever important Excedrin. Ive got 2 notepads, an appointment/calendar book, and the book ive been carrying around since Christmas that Im fake reading, "Who Moved My Cheese?", which I do hear is very good. Finally there's a headband, 2 packs of tissue which I can never find, thats why Im always adding yet another, and last but not least, my taxes!, that Ive been carrying around since January 31!!!!

...yes yes....all things I can't seem to live without! Alright, maybe one hand sanitizer is good enough!, lol

~J. Genese

Crocheted Slouch Hats

2009-02-17T08:14:00.000-08:00

I must say that I have recently taken a liking to the crocheted slouch hats (worn by Beyonce in the above picture) I first spotted last year adorning the heads of young college women around Atlanta. I also like the cute ballet shoes I've seen worn with these hats as well. It reminds me of a BoHo chic look. I also love how B and J have been 'dressing alike' in similar color schemes. So cute!

How the OTHER WOMAN Will Get to Celebrate Valentines Day...

2009-02-13T12:57:00.000-08:00

So this year Valentine's Day falls on a Saturday, and immediately I knew what some men were thinking...uh oh!...how am I going to pull this off!!, lol...

If you have more than one sweetheart, how do you decide, or "squeeze in" everyone so that they're all given a "Happy" Valentines Day? I asked a male friend of mine, a serial dater and playboy at heart, some of his tricks and secrets, so that we can know what to look for and what to expect if our Valentines try to play us for a fool this year ladies!

One of the main and most reliable excuses will be the classic, "I have to work". This excuse gives him the chance to either have to see you early in the day, and then "work" at night, ie, "work" on his other sweetie, or vice versa. Either way, if you've notice that your sweetie suddenly has to work this weekend, when he's never worked a weekend before.....beware!

Another excuse was the good ol "we're in a recession". This might be used so that he can share the wealth this weekend since he will be spending a good amount of money trying to keep everyone happy. And of course, if there have been any sudden arguments or disagreements leading to fights and slight "break ups", thats his way of freeing up some time during the weekend, since your mad at him he wont have to bother....or he'll come around maybe Saturday night, to "make up", after he's taken out his other sweetie....dont fall for it!!

If you dont hear from him too much on Friday, and he say's he's just trying to build up anticipation for Saturday...that just means he's taking the "other Valentine" out on Friday, so that she wont be interrupting on Saturday. I thought of that one on my own;)

All in all, I do wish everyone a delightful Valentines Day, and hopefully you wont have to be weary of any suspicious behavior this weekend. But im giving you the "heads up", for just in case;)

Happy Valentines Day!....xoxo...

~J.Genese

Liquid Leggings

2009-02-13T11:49:00.001-08:00

Look SUPER SEXY with a pair of what I like to call "liquid leggings' because with the right curvaceous shape you can look like they're painted on! "My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard!" lol These leggings have been seen in the streets on women of all sizes and shapes and I must say they look fly with a sexy stiletto or even a high boot. You are sure to find these at your local mall or women's boutique! I found these at American apparel online for $42 bucks but I know there are less expensive pairs at stores like Charlotte Russe and Level XI etc.

~Minique

I GOT MY LOUI BAG

2009-02-13T11:29:00.000-08:00

What is up for grabs: Louis Vuitton Keepall 45, Louis Vuitton Pegase 50, Louis Vuitton Poche Toilette 10 and a Louis Vuitton Evasion Tote, total worth almost $5,000!!

When: Tuesday February 3rd 2009, 9 am PST through Tuesday March 3rd 2009 at 11:59 pm PST.

How to enter: Click here and head over to Who What Wear to register.

You’ll need to grab the promotional code from here and enter it when you register.
Promotional Code: Malletier

You will have a couple ways to increase your chances of winning! While registering over at Who What Wear, enter your friends email addresses and you will receive extra entries. And keep coming back to Purse Blog throughout the month and look for an entry about the giveaway and receiving an extra entry from us (hint: pay extra close attention during the middle of the giveaway)!

Have fun, stay tuned and GOOD LUCK!

I Heart Sanaa Lathan!

2009-02-13T10:41:00.000-08:00

If you didn't know by now I HEART Sanaa Lathan. Here she is posing at the NAACP awards last night. I think she is just radiant in these pictures and I love how she looks natural & elegant. I've been a fan of her acting since way back when lol even in the days of Disappearing Acts. I secretly think we are twins too!

Go ahead wit yo bad self girl!

Minique~

Gloves Galore!

2009-02-12T10:33:00.001-08:00

Gloves are all the rave these days from the long kit fingerless gloves to the snazzy fishnet gloves shown in the pictures. I love the Cinid Lauper or Madonna look these gloves can add to your modern outfit and the greatest thing is they are not expensive at all. You can rock them with a cute dress to spice up your club look or even a racy 3/4 length leather jacket in the spring. Either way this look is hot, sexy & stylish!

Visit http://www.mydivascloset.com/ to find these and more.

~Minique

Zen Chic

2009-02-12T07:59:00.000-08:00

I love this picture from HGTV's website on sexy & stylish headboard designs. I am absolutely infatuated with Interior Design and you can tell by my home's interior. I have a small business named 'Chameleon Decor' in Atlanta where I do freelance interior design. I think my style most often gravitates towards what I like to call Zen Chic and this picture captures all the elements I love with this style of design starting with the Asian accents, both bold and earth tones, clean lines and the pops of the color green from the subtle stripe on the wall to the green candles sitting on the shelves. Visit HGTV.com for more inspiration or tips & tricks.

~Minique

"He's Just Not That N2 You"...

2009-02-11T09:29:00.000-08:00

"If He's NOT Calling or Texting You", i.e, NOT giving you the time and attention that you deserve and that you're devoting to him...

"If He's NOT Sleeping with You", i.e, NOT showing you the kind of affection that you're showing him...

And "If He's NOT Marrying You", i.e, NOT willing to show you any level of commitment...then quite frankly, "He's Just NOT That Into You"...

One of the most popular Sex in the City episodes has gone from page to stage, as "He's Just Not That Into You" hit box offices this past weekend, and has had women, and some men, selling out shows on even a Tuesday night. I had to venture to two movie theaters before I was able to purchase tickets in the nick of time for the almost sold out 7:30pm showing last night. A long time Sex in the City fan, and having already read the book, I had an idea of what to expect from the movie and what lessons they would be trying to teach throughout the next 2 hours and 9 minutes. So as me and a girlfriend of mine literally grabbed the last two seats in the theater, and as I checked to see whether or not he had texted me back yet before silencing my phone, I was good to go.

The movie, in a nutshell, explored dating practices and relationship standards that many woman can certainly relate to or surely know of. Now while I wont give the movie away, as my counterpart would kill me when she reads this since she has yet to see the movie, I will say that more or less its like a slap in the face...a wake up call so to say. We all know good and well what it means when a guy says he's going to call, and a week later your still looking at your phone, checking for a dial tone and making sure you dont have any missed calls! No he didnt lose your number or had an accident or sudden death in the family....he's NOT calling, never had any intentions....he's just not that into you! And as you watch the movie and kind of sympathize with the main character as she embarks on her somewhat pathetic search for romance, you may silently say to yourself, "awww, she's so niave...why doesnt she get it?" The answer is the same reason why we just dont get it ourselves sometimes...

Whether its being played out on the big screen, or from a page out of our own dating lives, at some point we all can relate, and know the signs of when he's really just not into you. Sometimes we just dont want to, or are not ready to face it, or may be in denial...and we're all entitled to our moments of weakness...

But just as "GiGi" realized that he wasnt going to call, and as I casually checked and noticed that he still didnt text me back, we have to stop making excuses for them...for ourselves...and start taking these "signs" just for exactly what they are. Sometimes he may just not be into you, and sometimes that can be quite alright...cause its surely his loss, NOT yours!

~J. Genese

Baby Boutique 4 Valentines Day!...

2009-02-10T09:47:00.000-08:00

Last year the theme of my bedroom wall calendar was handbags, of course, and this year its babies! Anne Geddes is one of the most respected and successful photographers in the world. Her award winning photographs of babies are "visual representations of her deeply held belief that we must protect, nuture, and love all children".

Now you can give her signature pictures to someone you love, as a cute accessory!

~J.Genese

http://www.annegeddes.com/

I LOVE YOU

2009-02-10T06:19:00.000-08:00

Ah yes Valentines will soon be here and you can already feel the "Love in the Air." I love this time of year although I am not currently in a fulfilling relationship I can still appreciate all the gestures and signs of love I see from the heart shaped candies, people displaying public signs of affection, red roses, romance movies in the theaters and most importantly hearing the words "I LOVE YOU." Saying these three words of affection to someone for the first time can be quite intimidating for some; however local Atlantan photographer Heidi Geldhauser just made it easier. She has cleaverly come up with a way to anomously leave sweet messages to brighten someone's day. You can leave one on the windshield of someone you secretly admire, give one to the cute waitress at the coffee shop, or just leave one in a public spot for anyone to cherish and pass along. In this time of love let's spread the romance. Stop by Heidi's website at iloveyoucards.org and order your FREE pack of 25 love notes.

Minique~

Victoria Beckham-Love her style!

2009-02-06T12:06:00.000-08:00

Giorgio Armani Unveils Victoria Beckham Undie Ads

Here's a peek at the campaign, shot by Mert & Marcus.

Rhianna vs Beyoncé

2009-02-05T14:56:00.001-08:00

"Which one doesn't belong?" lol

So you've all noticed the racy apparel that adorns Ms. Rhiana as she's become quite a fashion icon; however Beyoncé has been on the scene for quite some time and has always been known for her good looks, curvaous body and unbeweaveable tresses not her fashion sense. So just why is it now has she all of a sudden become a futuristic fashionista? I'll tell you why it's because Ms. Rhi Rhi is giving her a run for her money in both the fashion deparment as well as record sales. I love Rhiana's style, voice and alternative songs especially the "Disturbia" song and I have an appreciation for Beyoncé's vocal range as well; however I'm so over the frenzy about her looks, she's overrated if you ask me. Strip down all the 'fixing's' and see what you get without all the layers..... I personally admire the more natural beauty of women like Sanaa Lathan, Nia Long and Alicia Keys.

Minique~

Missed Connections....How Romantic!

2009-02-05T14:04:00.000-08:00

So I was at riding in the car today with a few co-workers on our way to a cute cafe for lunch when we stopped at a light on Cobb Pkwy and I looked over and fell in love/lust lol I mean this guy was gorgeous! He looked mixed between Asian and Black and his skin was radiant as the sunlight hit his profile. Before you know it I was staring at him and mouthed the words "Damn he's fine" while he was looking right back at me. I should have asked my girlfriend to pull over but I let it be. Then lo and behold I found myself at work on craigslist posting an ad on the "missed connections' link lol I must be crazy as I was told by my 2 ché buddy but who know's he could of been thinking the same sentiment "maybe she's single' cause I was obviously interested by the way I was almost drooling as we pulled away ;0( lol I just think these types of love stories are so romantic as I'm a hopeless romantic at heart lol

Signing off missed connection Minique~ lol

LOVE IS IN THE AIR...

2009-02-05T11:44:00.000-08:00

Love is a BEAUTIFUL thing...

~JGenese.

HARLEM HEIGHTS

2009-02-05T10:45:00.000-08:00

Oooh la la...a new series coming to BET about my wonderful city and fascinating neighborhood, Harlem...check it out...

~JGenese

"People from all walks of life flock to New York City. But the historic neighborhood of Harlem seems to attract the best and brightest of Black America. Some of the country's grandest young tastemakers now call the legendary neighborhood home, and this beautiful and eclectic bunch are determined to take the biggest bite they can out of the Big Apple. They work hard and play harder, living life to the fullest while acknowledging the past and confidently claiming the future. The glamorous lives of this new crop of the young Black elite are captured in BET’s newest reality series. HARLEM HEIGHTS provides a window into the fascinating world of New York's young, Black and fabulous. Set against the backdrop of the increasingly-gentrified neighborhood of Harlem, the series features a diverse cast of eight young adults who share common goals as they make the post-college leap into adulthood, finding love and success in the big city on their own terms."

http://www.bet.com/OnTV/BETShows/harlemheights/default.htm

Tune in for the premiere of HARLEM HEIGHTS on Monday, March 2 at 10 p.m. (ET/PT) on your local BET station.

I wanna be a PIN UP Girl!

2009-02-05T10:00:00.000-08:00

I wanna be a PIN UP Girl (on the weekends)! I just love their style especially that Katy Perry. I love those flower and bow headbands she wears with the extra short bangs and her shiny black hair is radiant! I watched her interview last night on the grammy award interview show and it gave me a greater appreciation for her music. That 'Jesus' tattoo rocks!

Minique~

P.S. "I'm so jealous"

2009-02-04T10:49:00.000-08:00

I chose this picture for two reasons, she looks fab and RED is the color of envy. Have you ever been out and about and came across a woman that made you say to yourself "I'm so jealous!" whether it's because she has great hair, gorgeous looks, sexy shoes or a fab handbag? Well I see beautiful women in my city everyday. I love living in Atlanta because there are tons of beautiful men and women here which makes for great people watching. I sat in one of the popular malls, Lenox Mall, last weekend to take it all in and I was so inspired. I saw someone dressed in an almost harajuku girl look, lots with those black liquid leggings of course, long sweaters and my favorite seems to be how the young Asian women dress. I love their style!
On the other hand don't you love it when you have your own "Make You LOOK" moment on the days when you look and feel fabulous and catch someone's admiring eyes on you. Doesn't that just make you feel awesome?!

Minique~

Shoe Whore Indeed...but Bag Fanatic at Heart!

2009-02-04T10:16:00.000-08:00

While I do love and can appreciate a nice sexy shoe indeed, I must say that I am definitely more of a bag whore:) I dont know...its like when a man see's a woman with a nice backside walk by and they lose all senses and have to stop and stare...thats the way I feel when I see a nice bag walk by!, lol...well, get carried by I should say. I fell in love yesterday morning on the train as I oogled this woman's LouisVuitton Damier Canvas Neverfull GM tote bag all the way till it walked off the train, and out of my life:(, lol...I just had to look it up as soon as i got to work! It was like the prettiest tote bag I had ever seen, and as I am currently in search of the perfect tote, it just appealed to all my fashion senses.

But my first love and absolute favorite hand bag will always be the classic "Speedy" or "Boston" shape...otherwise known as the "bowling bag". Im just all around in love with this style of hand bag, its the perfect shape and size, not too small and just big enough.

Now while ill always be a Gucci girl at heart, I am starting to venture onto other brands, and during my perusal of eluxury.com the other day, I spotted a gem...its a Marc by Marc Jacobs swifty handbag! Its so cute, perfect size, perfect shape....and the perfect price!!...I think im in love again!:)....

Louis Vuitton Damier Canvas Neverfull GM

http://www.louisvuitton.com/web/flash/index.jsp;jsessionid=ZGJCAXYFTLVSOCRBXUXFAHYKEG4RAUPU?buy=1&langue=en_US&direct1=home_entry_us

Marc by Marc Jacobs

http://www.eluxury.com/

J.Genese~

I'm a Shoe Whore!

2009-02-03T13:36:00.000-08:00

I just can't help myself, I'm a Shoe Whore! I love love love love shoes. I think I fell in love with shoes back in highschool as I attended an all girls Catholic highschool where we wore uniforms and the only way to distinguish yourself as a unique fashionista was through your accessories, mainly shoes. I came across this cute pair by Gianni Bini and have been eyeing them for some time. Can you believe they are only a measly $27 bucks now? I've got to have them! They would look so cute with a pencil skirt work suit or some textured leggings on the weekend. You can never go wrong with a pair like these in your arsenal. Check out more shoes by Gianni Bini at your nearest Dillards. Happy hunting!

Minique~

Diva

2009-02-03T13:12:00.000-08:00

Beyoncé - New Music - More Music Videos

-JGenese

The New Accessory For Your Legs

2009-02-02T12:59:00.000-08:00

Some women call them stockings. Younger girls may call them tights. Whatever your preference may be, just make sure you get your legs in a pair. With bold colors, exciting patterns, and unique designs, they are the new “IT” item of the season.
The gray, black, and blue tights that school girls grew up wearing, have been revamped with stylish flair and womanly sophistication. Versatile enough to be paired with everything from sweater dresses to shorts, the new stocking is a must have. Ranging in various styles, from bargain prices to high end, these glamorized stockings can take your day outfit out for a night on the town, or transform a summer favorite into a fall classic.
Show off those legs with these fashion stockings in your favorite ankle bootie or even a peep toe pump…the options are endless, and now so is your wardrobe.

~J. Genese

http://www.stockingirl.com/

The Depth of Color

2009-02-02T10:31:00.001-08:00

The Depth of Color in Gabriel Moreno's artwork is absolutely breath taking. His work is so captivating and makes me wish I could have a piece for my personal collection. I've always been a fan of photograhy and the arts in general and this guy takes the cake for me. Check out his artwork and profile at the site below:

http://www.gabrielmoreno.com/

You've been Spoofed!

2009-02-02T08:31:00.000-08:00

Ok so I heard about this on the radio the other day and could not contain my laughter. People are so decietful these days that you have to use extreme measures in pursuit of the truth.

Read an excerpt from the website below:

"I caught my boyfriend talking to another girl!! I found a number he was texting so i used the spoof card and called his phone number and put that number as the caller id when he anwserd and i did not say anything he was like hello rachel i can't hear you. It was good to have this card so things like this don't happen to people!!"

The product is called the spoof card. It virtually allows you to call a number from your phone using an alias number so that your contact doesn't know its you. You can even use a voice disguiser as well! Many people have already adopted the craze and I'm sure 99.9% of them are women trying to catch their men in the act. Visit their website at www.spoofcard.com and check it out for yourself. You may never know, you may actually need one lol

Whats New in YOUR City?

2009-02-02T08:29:00.000-08:00

So after some "after work" drinks, I decided what the heck, and to take my friend up on an offer for dinner. Seeing as how i dont get out that much, any place i go to is always a new experience for me, as was the case with UPTOWN, a lounge on the upper east side in NYC. I liked the atmosphere and the vibe was cool, as it provided a loungy, bar like feel, with club appeal. The patrons varied from the "after-workers" to the "getting ready for the clubbers". You can dine at the bar or opt for cozy booth-like seating. They have special signature UPTOWN martinis, of which I had 2, and they were quite delish. For dinner I had a chicken with pasta dish, which couldve been better but still was satisfying. Overall, I would recommend the trendy UPTOWN Lounge for a girls night out or for some after work specials...it was pretty cool indeed...

http://www.uptownloungenyc.com

Then fueled up with the energy from the UPTOWN Lounge, I felt the night was young, and so was I! So I decided to give one of my girlfriends a visit at the club she was working at for the night, and this Friday happened to be Club Aura. I must say...a lot has changed since our days of "Speeed", lol, and as I sat at the door as she worked and took the party-goers $20, $30, and even $40!...prices I surely dont recall ever paying then or now, one thing was made apparent...I sure wasnt young anymore!

http://www.auranyc.com

~J. Genese

Why Him? Why Her? Relationships/Dating

2009-01-31T18:13:00.000-08:00

Last night while watching 20/20 I was faced with the ever daunting question Why Him? Why Her? I guess it's simple enough to say that once one reaches a certain age they come to believe that life's greatest gift is finding their perfect mate. Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher thinks she's found the answer! She believes that there are two parts of the personality: character and temperament. Character of course is comprised of things you've developed over the course of life experience and temperament is your inherited traits. There are 4 types of temperaments: Explorers (risk takers), Builders (cautious but not fearful), Directors (analytical) and Negotiators (broadminded imaginative). The show followed four couples over the course of their dating which started at a speed dating event in New York. Not surpsingly, only two of the four couples ended up in a long term relationship; one resulting in marriage.
I guess what I take away from watching a special like this is "Why does dating have to be so damn complicated?" What happened to the bilssful days of catching someone's eye, don't those chemical reactions from pheremones play a huge part in attraction anymore or have we chalked it all up to your potential mates balance on their ATM receipt or the famous Capital One quote "What's in your wallet?" or perhaps something more obvious like that S type he's driving. As I steadily approach my 30's, taking baby steps mind you lol, I continue to wonder keeping in mind that our divorce rate is now over 50%; what actually makes up a long lasting and happy marriage. Why Him? Why Her? But most importantly when will I meet my other half???

My FAVORITE Accessory..

2009-01-30T14:05:00.001-08:00

Flower Power!...Im all about it!...
I love a loud “look at me” ring, and nothing says that more than what I call the Flower Power ring. It pacts a big punch (literally), and makes a bold statement. Charming and dainty, this power ring speaks all for itself, so it doesn’t even need too many other accessories to accompany it. It comes in various styles of flowers and a multitude of colors so you can mix it and match it with anything in your wardrobe.
If you’re looking for a head turner and a conversation starter this ring is definitely the piece to wear!

~J. Genese

Ur so Gay and you don't even like Boys/Music

2009-01-30T12:10:00.000-08:00

You're so Gay and you don't even like Boys----or do you? Best put by my most recent favorite artist Kate Perry. Her song is hilarious and most importantly true for many men unfortunately. Take a look at this group of London Fashionistas accompanying Kanye with their LV briefcases, scarfs and even leopard tights galore! I mean this is ridiculous! I am all for the love of fashion but damn is it that serious? I sure hope these men aren't passing for heterosexual in their social circles because all is see is 6 "How YOU doing's!" LOL

In the words of Kanye "Everything I'm not, may be everything I am"......

My Fashion Pick of the Day-Nails

2009-01-30T10:24:00.000-08:00

www.minxnails.com

I've fallen in love with this nail polish! While viewing Beyonce's performance during the 'Neighborhood Ball' following the inaguration I caught a glimpse of her nails and fell in love. Of course my first thought was I'm sure that polish costs something ridiculous and is Dior etc but I finally found out the brand. It's Minx ladies, the nail polish of 2009! Although not readily available for consumer purchase, as it's commercial product; you can kindly enjoy a relaxing trip to one of the following nail salon's offering this product in NYC and GA:

NYC

Fringe Salon
248 Broome St.
New York, NY 10002

212-674-8383

info@fringeny.com
http://www.fringeny.com/

Shine Salon and Spa
Mya Evans
185 Peters St.
Atlanta, GA 30315
404-522-5311
shinesalonspa@gmail.com
http://www.shine-salonspa.com/